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Field Notes from an Atheist: Embracing Contradictions for Growth

In times of overwhelming certainty, it is essential to embrace ambiguity and doubt. No civilization has ever thrived by claiming a monopoly on truth.

I used to be a militant atheist for a significant period until a shift occurred, retaining my atheism while shedding the militancy. There is no longer a desire to engage in conflict or evangelize beliefs.

Exploring the beauty of contradictions became evident to me, particularly within the dynamics of my own home. The union of contrasting worldviews between my devout Catholic wife and myself has evolved over the years. While challenges arise sporadically, we have transitioned from arguments to mutual respect and curiosity.

This journey has highlighted the power of accepting contradictions not as divisive elements but as opportunities for personal development and mutual understanding. It necessitated looking beyond surface disagreements to discover shared values such as compassion, integrity, and a belief in the inherent goodness of people.

As a staunch advocate of science, delving into spirituality with an open mind has been enlightening. Accompanying my wife on her spiritual endeavors has allowed me to appreciate the historical, musical, and architectural aspects of faith. In return, I hope she has found beauty in the scientific principles that underpin my convictions.

Our children have been the primary beneficiaries of this philosophical exploration, growing up in an environment that encourages inquiry and discovery. They witness a household where science and faith are not adversaries but complementary perspectives. This approach extends beyond our home, reflecting the wisdom of embracing contradictions in broader contexts.

Throughout history, individuals have navigated conflicting beliefs to drive significant change. The Renaissance era exemplified a blend of classical revival, humanism, and religious fervor, resulting in awe-inspiring works of art and philosophy.

Contemplating concepts like yin and yang from Taoism underscores the harmony found in opposing forces, emphasizing the beauty of balance amidst complexity. Even renowned scientists like Albert Einstein have expressed spiritual wonder at the mysteries of the universe, blurring the lines between science and spirituality.

Navigating contradictions effectively hinges on listening to diverse viewpoints with humility, acknowledging that no single perspective holds absolute truth. In a world fixated on certainty and dogma, creating space for uncertainty and doubt can be profoundly liberating, fostering intellectual growth and embracing human complexity.

Looking ahead, I envision a world where diversity of thought is cherished, and contradictions are celebrated. By recognizing the value of “also/and” over “either/or,” we pave the way for inclusive societies that thrive on harmonizing differences.

The harmony achieved in embracing dissonance within my family serves as a testament to humanity’s capacity to foster unity amidst diversity. This realization transcends the boundaries of atheism or belief, uniting us on common ground.


(Charles Assisi, Co-founder of Founding Fuel, can be contacted at [email protected])